NOTE: Commentary is made as a private citizen and not as Regional Coordinator for Silent No More or Leader of Rachel's Hope, unless otherwise stated.

Sunday, July 31, 2016


Recently, after voicing my presidential preference, I was asked, “Are you a racist or ignorant?”  Although stunned, I answered politely and explained my rationale and said we would just need to agree to disagree.  I tried to laugh it off, and went on with what I was doing, but as hours passed, I began to get angry.  How could that person, who has known me for a while, blurt out something so hateful? 

 Since when:

Is it racist wanting to protect our citizens by suspending the influx of refugees until a secure vetting process is established?   I have compassion for those in need of safe harbor, but we need to be prudent.  We’ve seen the horrors of terrorism, and unfortunately are vulnerable to more attacks.

Is it racist to secure our borders and require foreigners wishing to enter the United States, in the hopes of a better life, to do so legally?  Giving illegal immigrants, from any country, a “free pass” is a slap in the face on those who follow the law.  Additionally, those wishing entrance, as with the refugees, need to be properly vetted.

Is it racist to ask for proper identification to vote?  We all are required to provide identification to fly, open a checking account, get and use credit cards, attend political conventions (!), the list goes on and on.  Identification is a means to avoid voter fraud thus maintaining the integrity of the election process.

As far as the "ignorant" comment ... well, let's not even go there.   

I have carefully considered both parties’ platforms and am following my conscience, faith, and values. I voice my opinion and debate the issues.  In doing so, I try to be respectful towards those whose opinions are contrary to mine, and I expect the same in return. (I do, however, enjoy posting few comedic Facebook memes from time to time to lighten the mood.)

Regardless what side of the aisle you are on: 

Thursday, July 14, 2016

Letting Go of Toxic People

For several decades, I've had a fragile and contentious relationship with someone close, faults assigned equally.  At some point, I decided it was time to offer up the olive branch.  I pulled up my big girl panties and took responsibility for my part in our differences.  Although I heard no reciprocal words of apology, I let it go and moved forward with renewed hope the fracture was permanently sealed.

The peace lasted for about two years when my hopes diminished, finding out I was covertly maligned, everywhere, including social media.  I received hateful messages from people who believed the lies, including some I considered friends.  The betrayal by someone I should be able to trust and lean on was devastating, and anger rose ... but not at the perpetrator ... at myself.  You see, this wasn't the first time being hoodwinked.  This last transgression was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back.  The last remnants of trust evaporated from my heart, and I said to myself, "NO MORE."

It's sad to let go of someone that should be an integral part of my life, but I finally realized that some things just couldn't be fixed, and continuing attempts to rekindle such a brittle relationship would invariably reap the same results.  It reminds me of the saying, Fool Me Once - Shame on You, Fool Me Twice - Shame on Me.  We should always give people a second chance, and possibly a third, but then it's time to surrender.  If our side of the street is clean, we shouldn't have to cross over to their side, time and time again, just to get run over. 

My priest once told me there are people that are so toxic they can inflict emotional as well as spiritual damage which will eventually draw us away from God.  He assured me it was okay to protect myself and close the door as long as it was without malice or thoughts of retribution ... and most importantly, done with forgiveness in my heart. 

Something we should always remember:

Tuesday, July 5, 2016


This is one of my favorite posts that will give you an idea of how my
mind works (be afraid, be very afraid!)...Thought it was worth posting again.

As a writer, life experiences sometimes inspire ideas for future projects, but I never expected a menial household chore to be one of them.

You see, I had an attack of domesticity the other day and decided to clean out my refrigerator.  I realized the contents could very easily be used to get rid of a spouse, backstabbing friend, noisy neighbor ... well, the possibilities are endless, and the passing would more than likely be determined an "accidental poisoning".

I'm embarrassed to say I had cottage cheese that expired three months ago, hidden behind a plastic container filled with something that morphed into a green slimy substance, hidden by all newly purchased grocery items.  In fact, there were several hidden plastic containers and some of the slime was even black. Did you know jelly can mold?  I didn't. I guess 2009 wasn't a good year for grapes. Of course, let's not forget salad dressing, horseradish, cans of whipped cream and a jar of maraschino cherries (I don't even remember using them ... they expired in 2012).

Not only did this chore give me ideas for a future book, it reminded me to be more diligent in checking expiration dates and to throw the old stuff out. It's bad enough to be faced with slime and mold, but the smell.....that alone could do someone in.

And ... here it comes ... food for thought:

Just like expired items in the fridge, 
unresolved anger or hurt will fester and 
eventually poison your soul if you 
don't throw it out through forgiveness.

Sunday, July 3, 2016

A Spiritual Declaration of Independence

While contemplating 4th of July plans, a thought came into my ever-wandering mind.  We celebrate the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, but we can celebrate a spiritual declaration of independence every day!

 Galatians 5:1

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”

Here are a few examples:

II Chronicles 7:14 “If My people, who are called by My name, will humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”
Romans 6:11Consequently, you too must think of yourselves as (being) dead to sin and living for God in Christ Jesus..”
Psalms 32: 1,2,5,6 “Blessed is he whose sins are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed are those whose sins the LORD does not count against them, and in whose spirit is no deceit…You forgave the guilt of my sin.”
Isaiah 43:25 “I, even I, am He Who blots out your sins, for My own sake and remember your sins no more”.
Hebrews 13:5 "I will never forsake you or abandon you.”
Isaiah 54:10 “For the mountains may depart, and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.”
Matthew 11:28-29 “Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves.”
Psalms 107:19-21 “Then they cried to the LORD in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He sent forth his word and healed them; he rescued them from the grave. Let them give thanks to the LORD for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for men.”
Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
Psalms 27:1 “The LORD is my light and my salvation-- whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life-- of whom shall I be afraid?"