Tuesday, February 14, 2017

I'm Not There - Another Casualty of Abortion


From September 2015 –



Being an active part of the pro-life community allows me the opportunity to meet and work with many dynamic and inspirational people.  Such was the case a while back when I had dinner with Father Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life/Pastoral Director of Silent No More Awareness Campaign and Georgette Forney, President of Anglicans forLife/Co-Founder of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign.

While enjoying outdoor dining on the beautiful San Diego Harbor, our light banter eventually turned to the Planned Parenthood videos and how they are exposing the truth about abortion.  It was during that conversation I shared a particular consequence of abortion recently realized. Georgette thought this revelation would be a good topic for a blog post, so here it is: 

One of the tragic repercussions experienced by women who have had abortions is self-destructive behavior.  This behavior can come in a variety of forms including drug/alcohol abuse and suicidal ideation/attempts, both of which I suffered.  In addition to those behaviors, I also permanently destroyed my fertility by having a tubal ligation at the age of thirty … a means to punish myself for the abortions. 

I eventually adopted a precious ten-year old son from foster care who blessed me with two beautiful granddaughters, and I love them dearly, but with that love is sadness.  When I look at my son’s face as well as those of my granddaughters, I’m not there.  They carry nothing of me biologically that can be passed on to future generations.  My hands are strikingly similar to my mom’s, and when I browse old photos of my grandparents, there’s no doubt I’m related.  Granted, my ear and forehead size is an attribute I used to hide, but in time, grew to embrace because it’s something our family shares … along with dark eyes and high cheekbones.  Unfortunately, to coin a phrase, “It’s the end of the line.”

I not only purposely took away the chance to experience the miracle of carrying a child and giving birth but also ended the passing on of physical traits.  As I terminated the life of two beautiful angels, I terminated the biological chain of life … a chance for a grandchild or great-grandchild to look at me and say, “Your hands are like mine,” or with a laugh exclaim, “Thanks for the forehead, granny!”  One more aspect of abortion loss realized after over thirty years. 

Although I carry deep regret and sadness, I’m equally filled with gratitude that God, in His infinite mercy, gave me another chance at motherhood.  The love I have for my son and granddaughters goes beyond words and biology.   Adoption is a wonderful way to enrich families and bring joy to infertile couples.  I applaud the courage and selflessness of those faced with an unplanned pregnancy who either keep their children or place them for adoption and adoptive parents who open their hearts and homes, not just through private adoption, but through foster care. 

All children deserve life, love and the opportunity to thrive.
Georgette Forney, Fr. Frank Pavone and Me


Sunday, January 22, 2017

REAL WOMEN RESPOND to the March for "Some Women"




We want to thank the “For Some Women” March for providing material for this blog post.   

According to the March’s website:  “In the spirit of democracy and honoring the champions of human rights, dignity, and justice who have come before us, we join in diversity to show our presence in numbers too great to ignore.  The Women’s March on Washington will send a bold message to our new government on their first day in office, and to the world that women’s rights are human rights.  We stand together, recognizing that defending the most marginalized among us is defending all of us…”  “We call on all defenders of human rights to join us.” 

Wow!  What a mission!  We totally agree with it.  But, not so fast, Patti and Leslie.  You are pro-life, you defend the human rights of babies, so you can’t come.  Who, if not the unborn, are more marginalized?     

After suffering through Madonna and Ashley Judd’s comments, we can now understand why our country has been in such a miserable state.  People actually applauded them!  People actually cheered!  People actually agreed with them?  We have the right to assemble, and to free speech; we will defend those rights to the very end.  However, their speeches - fraught with expletives, hate-filled attacks, and downright threats do nothing to promote progress for women, or for anyone for that matter.  They were vile, meaningless rants that made them look foolish, childish and frankly, totally ignorant.   

We’ve been on both sides of this issue for decades.  We used to be radical feminazis angrily arguing about a woman's right to choose...helping elect pro choice candidates, etc.  We drank the koolaid of the progressive feminist propaganda for way too long... The aftermath has been devastating to women, men, our families, and our culture. All that sexual freedom had consequences, and many lives have been destroyed.   We finally realized we couldn’t live in peace and live a lie.  We broke the silence and allowed the truth to set us free and now speak publicly about the regret of our abortions.   

By bravely sharing our testimonies, Silent No More brings broken hearts to hope and healing. Please read from the thousands of testimonies on the Silent No More Awareness website.  Share it with others who are hurting.  To quote Theresa Bonapartis of Lumina,  The one thing that is different is there is more of them...the walking wounded from over 40 years of legal abortion. Women desperate to stay in denial, rationalization, and justification to the extent that they have reduced themselves to their vaginas by wearing "Pu--y hats," some baring their breasts and shouting all kinds of degrading chants." 

To the women who marched on Washington, you didn’t march for us, but we will march for you on January 27th

Patti J. Smith and Leslie Davis-Blackwell