NOTE: Commentary is made as a private citizen and not as Regional Coordinator for Silent No More or any other ministries.

Wednesday, August 3, 2022


We have all inadvertently hurt a family member or friend. We are human.  After offering a sincere apology and receiving forgiveness, how many of you have that family member or friend continuously bring up the transgression they claimed to have forgiven?   It is frustrating and painful.   

These people have always been important in our lives; we love them, but enough is enough. They have become toxic and threaten our peace of mind. We should not have to apologize for the same transgression repeatedly and if their apology was sincere, we wouldn't be expected to.  

It might not be easy, but it is time to let go. We need not do so with malice but with love and a prayer that God will bless them with all that is good and that someday they will be able to open their eyes and heart. 

Dr. Steve Mariboli said, "We would do ourselves a tremendous favor by letting go of the people who poison our spirit."  I wholeheartedly agree.   Do not let anyone define you by your past, regardless of how much you love them. I can say with certainty and thanksgiving that we are not defined by our mistakes but by the love and mercy of God.


"For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, deluded, slaves to various desires and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful ourselves and hating one another.  But when the kindness and generous love of God our savior appeared, not because of any righteous deeds we had done, but because of his mercy, he saved us through the bath of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he richly poured out on us through Jesus Christ, our savior, so that we might be justified by his grace and become heirs in hope of eternal life.  This saying is trustworthy."

Titus 3:5-8


Sunday, July 24, 2022

It's Not Hypocrisy, It's Love

 "Shame on you.  How can you, after having an abortion yourself, participate in any efforts to stop others from doing the same?" 

That was a question posed to me in the growing flurry of social media debates surrounding the overturning of Roe v Wade.

My pro-life posts invariably evoke rambling expletives and name-calling. Comments now are even more brutal following the overturning of Roe v Wade. Unfortunately, even some friends who had always supported my efforts hopped on the abortion bandwagon - calling me a hypocrite and condemning my pro-life stance and my faith.  The overturning of Roe v Wade was the catalyst that revealed their true colors.  How sad that had they been honest from the start, my trust and respect towards them would still be intact.

It may appear hypocritical to speak out against abortion after having two of them, but it's not.  Those of us who share honestly about our abortion experience do so out of love. After our abortions, we employed a variety of self-destructive behaviors to suppress our guilt and shame. Those behaviors sometimes lasted for decades and affected all aspects of our lives. Sharing our pain is a means to prevent others from making the same devastating mistake. 

Ezekiel 18:10-13 speaks of a man who defiles himself in sin, thus deserving death.  It is followed by Ezekiel 18:14,17:  "If, however, he begets a son who sees all the sins which his father has done, and considers but does not do likewise…he shall surely live." 

In other words ... If those considering or encouraging abortion yield to the words of those who have experienced it, they will avoid the spiritual and emotional death borne from shame and regret … and, most importantly, save their precious child.

If you have had an abortion and are suffering in silence, you can find peace and forgiveness through after-abortion healing.  Visit