NOTE: Commentary is made as a private citizen and not as Regional Coordinator for Silent No More or Leader of Rachel's Hope, unless otherwise stated.

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Storms of Life

It’s 3:45 a.m.  Under normal circumstances I’d be working on a book at this hour, but this morning I needed to get back on the right spiritual path.  You see, when faced with challenges, I sometimes end up sitting on my pity-pot instead of standing strong with faith. 

On Monday, my eighty-seven-year-old father took a nasty fall and broke his hip which will send him into surgery on Thursday and a lengthy rehabilitation.  His unfortunate accident is joined with my eighty-two year-old uncle’s (who also lives with us) diagnosis of colon cancer and my husband's pinched nerve that rendered his right arm and hand useless until the medication starts working … requiring him to be off work for a week.  

Being overwhelmed at this point is definitely an understatement.  Rising above these recent challenges is difficult but thanks to the Holy Spirit, I was reminded of my own words in Embrace the Morning – Rosary Meditations to Calm the Storm which I temporarily seemed to have forgotten:   

"Agony in the Garden

Luke 22:39-42: Then going out he went, as was his custom, to the Mount of Olives, and the disciples followed him. When he arrived at the place, he said to them, “Pray that you may not undergo the test.” After withdrawing about a stone’s throw from them and kneeling, he prayed, saying, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup away from me; still, not my will but yours be done.

Jesus, in his agony, remained steadfast in accepting the Father's will. We too are faced with agony in our life and need to hold fast to the belief that God is with us. He will not saddle us with more than we can endure. In His mercy, He gives us the fortitude to withstand anything that comes our way – if we let Him.

Jesus, in your agony you turned to the Father in faith and trust, knowing He would never forsake you. When I am faced with challenges in my life, may my faith and trust emulate yours."

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Planned Parenthood: Putting Kids at Risk

During recent research on Planned Parenthood’s website, something struck me smack in the face.  In the teen section, there is a segment on sex (Click HERE for site), and nowhere does it address age when considering if a teen is ready for sex (13, 14, 15, 16...?). In fact, here is how they handle the topic, “How do I know when I’m ready?” (Click HERE for site)  I’ve highlighted some specific concerns and remember, this is addressing TEENS:

How do I know when I’m ready?

Only you can know the answer to that question. Deciding when to have sex for the first time is a big deal, and it can be a tough decision. It's really helpful to talk it out with someone you trust — a parent, a friend, a health care provider, or someone else who cares about you. Sex can be risky for your body — STDs and unintended pregnancy are no joke. But sex can also have emotional risks. Sex before you're ready for it, sex with someone you don't trust or respect (or who doesn't trust or respect you), or sex that doesn't feel good can lead to some really stressful feelings. And a healthy sex life shouldn't be stressful. We usually make better decisions when we think through all the good things and bad things. A great sex life is one that fits in with everything you're about, including:

·       your personal values your school and career goals

·       the emotional and physical risks you're willing to take

·       if it's something you really want to do, or something your partner is pressuring you to do

·       what sort of relationship you want to have with the person you have sex with (and how well  that matches the relationship they want with you)

·       whether family and friends will support your decision (and how important that is to you)

·       your feelings about who you are and what you're comfortable doing
·       whether you want to be in a committed relationship before you have sex.

Not only does their website avoid discussing age, but it also does not address rape appropriately. Not once is statutory rape mentioned in the rape section.  This is what they say, “Most agree that any sexual contact is a crime if the person doesn't consent. It's also a crime if the person CAN'T consent (like if they're drunk or passed out), even if they're in a relationship or married" - See more HERE 

I don’t think parents are aware that Planned Parenthood makes sure teens have all the tools to have an active sex life as well as means to avoid or fix the consequences. Yes, it’s important teens have a general knowledge about sex, but do parents really want their teenagers encouraged to be sexually active? 

Planned Parenthood encourages sex, regardless of age or what parents think. Teenagers are not mature enough to make informed decisions regarding sex, and Planned Parenthood doesn't care.   They make millions from birth control products and if birth control fails there's the other major money maker ... abortion. 

You know my feelings towards abortion, but even if you don't agree with me in that respect ... what about birth control and other services?  Do you want your tax dollars spent on an organization that tells teenagers they know better than their parents as to what's best for them?  Do you want your tax dollars spent on an organization that sells teen sex as a normal and acceptable activity? 

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Advice I Would Give My Younger Self

A while back I was asked to write a guest post on the topic, “Advice I Would Give My Younger Self,” I didn’t hesitate, thinking it would be a breeze.  Either it was lack of sleep or too few cups of coffee (both, I think) because it took a while before realizing the enormity of the assignment.  You see, my younger self was a mess.  I should have had Self Will Run Riot tattooed on my forehead rather than the butterfly on my derriere.  (Tattoos on women are commonplace now but not in a small-town in the 70’s.)

Recalling my past antics (and cringing), the advice I would tender would be to listen to your parents, remain close to God, pay attention to the little voice in your head and last but not least … love and respect yourself.  Had I done those things I would have avoided decades of pain due to alcoholism and the subsequent consequences … promiscuity, unplanned pregnancies which led to abortion, estrangement from family and multitudes of failed relationships, all leading to a suicide attempt and institutionalization. 

Pretty gloomy, huh?  Well, don’t pull out the Kleenex … Through the grace and mercy of God, love and support of my family and some very good programs, I was able to climb out of the well of darkness into the light.  I followed the advice I would have given my younger self and am nearing eighteen years of sobriety, in a wonderful marriage, active in my church community and became a caregiver to my parents.  (Who would have ever imagined they would trust me with their care, let alone move in with me!). 

I would be remiss if I didn’t add one more pieces of advice:  Forgive yourself.  If you can’t, you’ll never quite reach the top of that dark well.  You’ll always live in the shadow of remorse and regret and miss out on the joyous and wonderful life God wants you to have.

Friday, October 2, 2015

Becoming Numb to Tragedy - With Exceptions

I was saddened by the tragedy in Roseburg yesterday.  I ask that you join me in praying for the souls lost, people injured, witnesses traumatized and families devastated. 

What saddened me more was a quote from the President.  “I’d ask the American people to think about how they can get our government to change these laws, and to save these lives and let these people grow up.”  He also said, “That given the frequency of mass shootings, people had become numb to this.”

What about the unborn, Mr. President?  Shouldn’t we be saving their lives and giving them a chance to grow up as well?  You speak about how people are becoming numb to mass shootings but aren’t you just as numb as to the barbarism at Planned Parenthood? 

Abortion also takes the lives of innocent children and the mothers and those involved in the abortion decision are injured, traumatized and devastated.  We now have proof babies suffer during the procedure, that Planned Parenthood manipulates their process to harvest organs and mothers are misled or coerced into signing donor forms.

Mr. Obama expressed outrage over the massacre, but why isn’t he directing the same towards Planned Parenthood?  Just as the shooter deviously orchestrated the massacre in Roseburg for some ill-perceived ideology, Planned Parenthood orchestrates their barbarity for profit.  But instead of outrage, the President, and his political allies don’t bat an eye.  In fact, they deny the truth, support the barbarism and continue to fund the organization with taxpayer dollars.

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